Why Our Past Does Not Define Who We Are And What We Can Become

What I am about to share with you isn't going to be easy.

Years ago, I got married.

Something inside of me said, "no."

I've noticed, when I don't listen to my instincts or what we call the heart, I get into trouble. It's strange, how one action can really affect your life - if you let it.

If the head and the heart don't work together, you can get into trouble. So there needs to be a balance.

Yes, years ago, I got married and for the years to come, before the divource, it caused many hard times.

What gets you isn't even the divource but rather the betrayal. The let downs, the part where you believed and thought like you do online..

"Can I trust this person? Is it real? Are thet contactable if something goes wrong with the download? Is there a way I can reach the person if I have a question?

Then you pay that $10.99 or that $100.00 or it could even be just $6.97 for an ebook you wanted.

You pay, you're excited to get that book and read it. Maybe, there is just one nugget you can use, if all the rest is the same stuff you've already read.

Then you go to the Thank you page and downoad that ebook.

You try to unzip it but hang on.

It says..

File is not valid.

You're heart sinks.

You email and get no reply. Every day, anxious, seeing if the email will come to give you hope, and the message..

"You haven't been scammed. I'm real. Here's the document you bought. It will open up. Need anymore help, please do contact us.."

What gets you is not the $6.97.
If you really think about it it's not the money that hurts you. It's the emotional part where you believed and now you've been betrayed, lied to.

Imagine this to be 1,000 fold because you knew the person, lived with the person for five years and find after the divource - the person is totally, I mean totally different!

It's like they were acting all the way. They even know they did wrong but like most people, the ones who make everything an excuse to lie, cheat and betray, say..

"Oh, it just happened.."

And through it all was a little kid, my son and suddenly, he dissappears too.

Focus On The Truth Not Emotional Justice
For years I had only a small photograph of my son in my wallet.

I'd look at it once in a while because it use to hurt a lot to look at the photograph.

I remembered, when he was a baby, I'd wash him. I'd carry him. I'd laugh with him because I wanted to give him what my own father never gave me.

That is all I had of him - memories of taking him to the park when he learnt to walk. The memories of him laughing as I pushed him on the swings and later took him to see the museums, and other places to let his mind dream of great dreams.

I'd tell him stories of heroes long ago and how everything you desire is possible, if you're willing to fight for it. If you're willing to study for it and get the skill and become a master.

I remember what he said..

"Master...master..master.."

He got what I was saying to him - be a master of your own fate and make your own opportunities.

So, I'd think of those moments and wonder where he is. Wondering if she'll stop playing games and realise, I'm a man who doesn't play the game.

I've never played the game with a boss at work and always stood up to him if he ever tried talking down to me.

I've never played the game at school, when I was a teenager - where bullies would walk the school and try to push you around. I'd fight and get beaten up, than run or whimper like most did.

I've never played the game with the system of life because it is a game with two rules. The rule for those who get broken by the rules they adapt into their lifes. Rules given by the system.

I'm not a man you can say...

"But if you don't take them to court, you'll lose your son and.."

I'm not the type to fight that way because always, someone will get hurt and I have lived my life, with patiance. For if you have done one thing right, that right shall chase you no matter where you are in the world.

So, I never saw my son for 8 years....
This happened to my father too. My mum ran off and took my sisters. Me, I walked out of my dad's house cause I got sick of all the complaining he did about my mum and never really spent time with my mother.

Because she was saying the same about my dad.

when I grew up to the ripe age of 18 years old, I wents searching for my dad.

The thing is - he did one big mistake. He was bitter and used the experience of divource to get bitter at me and closed the door.

He did this action 6 times until I said to myself..

"Well, I've given him his chances. See yah in the next life. Maybe.."

Years later, my son did the same.
He found me and knocked on my door. His face revealed to me his state of nervousness. It wasn't easy for him to find me and meet me.

He must have been thinking about it a lot, asking his mum questions until she couldn't stop him anymore.

The one right thing you do, will chase you, no matter where you are in this world. The past do not define you and who you become..

I remembered what my dad did and instead of doing what my father did - I did the opposite.

Instead of talking bad about his mother, I talked good.

Why? When I had all the anger to unleash, ready, with evidences and anything else I figured out over the years.

Because I wanted to break the cycyle that my grandfather did, that his son who is my father has done. That my mother did and said to myself..

"The buck stops here. I'm going to lead the next generation the way it should have been lead.."

Here's What Most MLM, Network Marketer's Do
Most talk bad about someone else's company in MLM, Network Marketing. They have no shame, no decency and intregity and they do it in the face of that prospect too.

See it this way.

If I talked bad about his mum, then what do you think he thinks of himself? I'm not just talking about his mum but also about him.

He's part of his mother, he's her son too.

Now imagine, the self esteem, the hurt we can cause to someone when we talk to a prospect who has a business already and bad chat about it.

And doing it in front of his or her face!

You think that's attractive to this person? The prospect must have heard these words a thousands times from other so called leaders...

"Oh, you in that company? Nah, no one makes money in that company. Look at ours. See our comepnsation plan and our great amazing product. Man, we got it sorted. We are the best and.."

Focus On The Needs Of Each Person
His mother and who she is with cannot teach him entrepreneurship, the Financial Literacy. They broke to the bone. Struggling.

So here's my chance to help my son to learn, do his studies, teach him what the school and college won't teach him.

I hear so many talk about how they want to help people, save the world but here's a thought..

• What about our kids!
• What about our neighbours
• What about our parents
• What about helping those close to us

And it doesn't have to be us getting into the opportunity but helping them solve their problems out.

That's how I created a large organisation. That's how I get parents throwing their 18 year old sons and daughters to me, to teach them.

Imagine, parents giving you their jewels, their son's, daughters and even throwing money at you because for once in their life - they found someone who is focusing on their problems, needs instead of recruiting.

How much damage we Network Marketer's have done to the industry with our bad mouthing, our egos, our lack of integrity is by far unbelievable.

How many people we have hurt with our unprofessionalism.

How many companies does a person change and change again until they realised they are the secret not another company to join.

The Result In Focusing On People's Needs
My son has met me quiet a few times now and he said..

"Dad, can you show me how to build my own business. Show me how to create my own books, manga comics and get customers, using the internet. I like to learn this Attraction thingy.."

He is 13 years old.

Before he's 16 years old, he would have enrolled on Robert Kiyosaki course. Learnt what he cannot learn from scholl, college and university.

Breaking the poverty cycle, anger, bitterness and lead his generation to a bright future.

In the present day, I am married to an amazing woman. Yeah, I married again and in stepping back and looking in the mirror, and life itself, I realised one thing..

And it's ok to disagree with me on this but..

All that has happened was meant to be. It all makes sense.

I could have let the past and people and their actions, define who I am and what I become.

Instead, I chose the path to be the captain of my own fate, of my own life.

Deciding the past does not define my future.

Instead, I define and create the future I want in my life.

There are still some parts of my life I don't get. Wondering the meaning behind most of what has happened over the forty years of my life.

But that's fine.

The path is sometimes pave with questions and many will not walk on such a path until they have all the answers.

They will have a long time to wait because the answers don't just reveal themselves. They have to be lived.

And that my friends takes courage and most of all belief in the good that's out there for you.

Adam Taha